When I first arrived at my host family’s home, having my own private room felt like a dream come true. It was my little sanctuary — a place to escape, relax, and recharge after busy days filled with new experiences and responsibilities. That private space gave me a sense of independence and comfort, something I hadn’t fully realized I needed until I had it. It was my personal retreat, where I could be myself without any interruptions.

But living with a family also brought unexpected challenges that I hadn’t anticipated. Sharing a home means sharing lives, schedules, and sometimes emotions. It’s a constant balancing act between being part of the family and maintaining your own identity. I often found myself torn between wanting privacy and wanting to be involved. It’s tricky because on one hand, you crave connection and belonging, but on the other, you need space to process everything and recharge.

There were moments when I felt invisible or misunderstood — like I was neither a guest nor truly family. That feeling of being in-between was tough and sometimes lonely. However, I soon realized that open communication was key. Talking honestly with my host family about my needs and feelings helped clear up misunderstandings and build stronger bonds. Setting clear boundaries also made a huge difference. It wasn’t about shutting people out but about creating respect for my personal space and time.

My private room became more than just a place to sleep; it became my launchpad — a place to dream, plan, and prepare for whatever the next day would bring. It was where I could reflect on my experiences, set goals, and simply be myself. Embracing both the ups and downs of this journey has made my au pair experience richer and more meaningful.

If you’re an au pair struggling with similar feelings, remember: it’s okay to need space, and it’s okay to ask for it. Your well-being matters, and finding your balance between connection and privacy is an important part of this incredible adventure.