**My Host Kid Hates Me — Now What? A Friendly Guide for Au Pairs**

So, you’ve just arrived at your host family’s home, buzzing with excitement and hope — but your host kid seems to have other plans. They don’t want to warm up to you, and you’re left wondering, *“What now?”* Don’t worry, this is a super common experience for au pairs, and it’s definitely not the end of the world!

Why Does My Host Kid Seem to Hate Me?

First things first: don’t take it personally. Kids can be shy, overwhelmed, or just plain stubborn when a new person enters their world. It’s totally normal for them to test boundaries or act out. Remember, every child adjusts at their own pace, especially toddlers or kids going through changes.

How to Build a Connection with Your Host Kid

Patience and persistence are your best friends here. Try these simple, effective ways to bond:

• **Find their favorite game or toy:** Playing what they love shows you care.
• **Get silly:** A goofy dance or funny face can break the ice.
• **Offer a favorite snack:** Food is a universal language of love!
• **Be present without pressure:** Sometimes just sitting quietly nearby helps build trust.

Communicate Openly with Your Host Parents

Your host parents are your allies. Share your feelings and ask for their insights — they know their child best and can offer helpful tips or routines that work. Sometimes, kids act out because they’re adjusting to changes or feeling insecure, and parents can help you navigate those moments.

Celebrate the Small Wins

Every smile, shared laugh, or even a moment of eye contact is a victory. These small moments are the building blocks of a strong, loving relationship. Keep your heart open and your smile ready — with time, patience, and love, those frosty vibes will melt into warm hugs and giggles.

You’re Not Alone!

Remember, every au pair has faced challenges. The journey from “my host kid hates me” to “best friends forever” is totally possible. With Auost’s supportive community, personalized matching, and helpful resources, you’re set up for success from day one.

**Ready to build that special bond?** Join Auost's next Culture Webinar and equip yourself with tips tso help you understand and navigate the journey. Because every great relationship starts with a little patience and a lot of heart.