Moving to a new country to become an au pair is more than just a change of scenery — it’s a deep dive into a completely different culture. One of the biggest surprises? The way families raise their children can vary wildly from what you’re used to back home. I quickly learned that what worked in my country didn’t always fit here — and that’s perfectly okay.

The First Wave of Culture Shock

When I arrived, I was excited — and overwhelmed. Suddenly, I was living in a home with unfamiliar routines, parenting styles, and even mealtimes. In my first week, I offered the kids an afternoon snack I thought they’d love… only to find out it wasn’t allowed in their household. Oops! These little cultural missteps were humbling — and sometimes hilarious.

Even bedtime rituals, screen time rules, or how children are comforted when they cry were different. I remember learning a new way to calm a toddler down — a quiet lullaby in a language I didn’t yet speak — and being amazed at how quickly it worked. It was a beautiful reminder that love and care transcend borders.

Learning Through Observation and Openness

What helped me adapt was staying curious. I asked questions, watched how the parents interacted with their children, and kept an open mind. Slowly but surely, I found myself adjusting. I became more flexible, more understanding, and better at reading situations — all skills that have made me a more thoughtful caregiver.

Embracing the Journey with auost

If you’re preparing for your au pair journey abroad, expect culture shock — and embrace it. These moments of difference are what make the experience meaningful. You’ll laugh, you’ll learn, and you’ll grow in ways you never imagined.

Looking to start your adventure? Join auost — the platform where culture meets connection, and au pairs find the perfect host family match.