When I first met my host toddler, every time I walked into the room, I was met with tears. It was heartbreaking, and I honestly wondered if I’d ever be able to connect with this little one. The little face would scrunch up, and those big, watery eyes would look away, as if I were a stranger in a strange land. But I quickly learned that building trust with a toddler who’s wary takes time, patience, and a little creativity.

I started by simply sitting quietly nearby, letting the child get used to my presence without feeling pressured. I offered a favorite toy, something soft and colorful, hoping it might spark curiosity. Sometimes, I sang silly songs or made funny faces, trying to bring a smile without overwhelming them. But often, just being there—without pushing for interaction—made a huge difference. Toddlers are incredibly sensitive and need to feel safe before they open up. They’re like little emotional sponges, soaking up every vibe, so creating a calm, welcoming atmosphere was key.

Showing up every day with kindness and calm—even when I felt rejected—helped break down those walls. I reminded myself that this wasn’t about me; it was about the toddler’s comfort and trust. Toddlers are incredibly intuitive, and they can sense when you genuinely care. I celebrated every tiny victory—a smile, a hand held, a shared giggle—because those moments were the foundation of our growing bond. Each small step forward was a huge win.

Looking back, those tears were just the first step toward trust. With love and persistence, I turned those tough beginnings into hugs and laughter, and it’s been one of the most rewarding parts of my au pair experience. If you’re facing a similar challenge, hang in there! Your patience and love will pay off in ways you never imagined. Trust me, the journey from tears to trust is worth every moment.