When people imagine life as an au pair, they often picture the highlights — traveling to a new country, bonding with sweet kids, learning a new language, and making international friends. And yes, those moments absolutely exist and can be unforgettable. But here’s the part that doesn’t always make it into the picture-perfect stories: being an au pair is also challenging — emotionally, mentally, and physically.

The Side You Rarely Hear About

What they don’t always tell you is that some days are hard. Really hard. You may feel homesick, lonely, overwhelmed, or even question whether you made the right decision. Cultural differences can create confusion. Communication barriers can lead to misunderstandings. And sometimes, you just miss home-cooked meals and hugs from your family.

This is all completely normal, and it doesn’t mean you’re failing. It just means you’re human — and you’re growing.

What Helped Me

What made a difference for me was building a support system. I connected with other au pairs through auost, joined online groups, and stayed in touch with friends from home. Having people to talk to — people who understood what I was going through — helped me feel seen and supported.

I also learned to set healthy boundaries. Yes, you’re there to help, but you’re also allowed to rest, ask for clarity, and say no when things go beyond your responsibilities.

Embracing the Full Journey

Being an au pair isn’t just about the fun parts — it’s about the full experience. The ups, the downs, the moments of growth and the moments of doubt. And in the end, those challenges make the experience even more meaningful.

So go in prepared, not perfect. With auost, you’re never alone on the journey — support is just a message away.